You Can't Please Everyone

Friday, 30 January 2015

Contrary to popular belief, you can't please everyone. We spend a large proportion of time trying to ensure everyone else around us is happy that we often sacrifice our own happiness. And for what? Usually it's minor decisions we alter, but if you keep doing so you'll end up beginning to question what you're actually doing and why you're doing it. The one thing we want in life is to be happy, so it's quite alarming that we're willing to stop making the choices we want to make purely for other people. Don't get me wrong, selflessness is an endearing quality but if you're not careful, people might begin to see it as a weakness and take advantage. While it's a positive attribute to be able to compromise and take other people's needs, wishes and thoughts into consideration, don't let it turn you into a pushover because let me tell you, it won't be pretty.

Another thing to be careful of is retaining your morals and values while putting other people first. If you're running with someone else's plan or decision, but in your heart it isn't something you agree with, question why you're actually making the sacrifice. If it's because you feel the person will think less of you if you stand your ground, then you're not doing it for the right reasons. While it's more than okay to put other people first, it's not okay for someone to guilt you into doing what they want. People will become accustomed to your selflessness and subconsciously start abusing your kind nature. There will come a point where your best isn't good enough and despite trying your absolute hardest to make someone happy, you still won't be able to please them.

And while you're pleasing one person, someone else won't like the decisions you're making so it's really important to decide what, and who, means most to you. If you're worried about people you don't really know or care about judging you, then don't. What's it got to do with them anyway? Whatever you decide to do, there will always be jealous, bitter people who will try to put you down. As long as you're content in the choices you're making, that should be good enough for you. Keep your morals close to your heart and put people first who would do the same for you. If your selflessness and commitment isn't reciprocated, then is it really worth the hassle? You can't please everyone so the best thing to do is believe in yourself and do what is right for you.

It's easy to get wrapped up in a viscous circle of always trying harder. You begin to believe that what you did last time wasn't good enough so you continue to search for the answer by continuing to give things up for somebody or something. If it's for a good reason and you're chasing an ambition, then maybe it's worth the fight. But if you're already cottoning onto the fact that you're fighting a losing battle, quit while you're ahead because unfortunately sometimes your efforts aren't appreciated the way they deserve to be. If there's one piece of advice to remember, it's this: the moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away. Because realistically, your value doesn't decrease on someone's inability to see your worth. Keep your head high, your heart strong and you'll be just fine.


  1. Very truthful post. Great advice I strongly agree with.

    Hannah Rose

    1. Thank you Hannah! Glad you liked the post x