Jealousy Is Destructive

Sunday, 25 November 2012

Emotions are one of life's simplest pleasures. It's a given that happiness and excitement are favoured over sadness and anger, but, I do believe that emotions allow us to grow as an individual, and make us stronger. When you've undergone endless situations of stress, when you next encounter a stressful situation, you know how to handle it that bit better. So in that sense, negative emotions can be beneficial. However, I think the most destructive emotion is jealousy. I can almost hear people frowning as they read this, muttering something under their breath along the lines of 'is this girl for real?', because I know pain, I mean emotional pain not physical pain, is up there at the top, but I think jealousy is only a notch below.

Despite the next girl claiming she's not the 'jealous type' and doesn't mind when her boyfriend becomes friends with a girl with the figure of a model, and the face of a Vogue cover girl on Facebook, we are all, yes I repeat ALL jealous sometimes. I'm not just branding girls as jealous, I imagine that boys can also feel threatened or jealous by other boys, but it's only normal. I think it takes a stronger person to admit they're jealous, than to hide behind a facade and pretend they're this oh so confident fiery individual. If you do take things on the chin, then great. But for pretty much everyone, jealously does get the better of us at times.

In terms of being jealous of other people, well that's a whole different ball game. I don't think it's healthy to be jealous of people as it only makes you less confident within yourself and makes you feel inadequate. We all need confidence but there's a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Sure, I look at other girls and wish I had their hair, wonder why they've got so many nice clothes when I haven't, or look at people regardless of their sex or age and wonder why I can't have as many holidays as they do. But for me personally, this only gives me determination and drive to succeed so I can have those things. It's frustrating when people get it handed to them on a plate and take it for granted, but for people who work hard then good on them. 

At the end of the day, emotions will always rule our head, and our heart. We just need to deal with them wisely and accept what isn't and love what is. Life's too short.


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